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Writer's pictureJulie Lee

Looking After Yourself: A Guide for Baby Loss Awareness Week


Baby Loss Awareness Week
Self-care when grieving isn't just a luxury—it's essential.

Baby Loss Awareness Week (BLAW) is a time of deep reflection and remembrance for those who have experienced the unimaginable heartache of losing a baby. It’s a week to honour their memories and acknowledge the profound grief that comes with such loss. However, amidst the remembrance, it's important to remember one key aspect: looking after yourself.


Grief, especially the kind that comes with losing a baby, can be overwhelming, emotionally and physically. During this week, and beyond, self-care isn't just a luxury—it's essential.


Why Self-Care Matters in Grief

Grieving the loss of a baby can feel all-encompassing. It can drain your energy, disrupt your sleep, and make everyday tasks feel impossible. You may feel the weight of sadness and emptiness while also facing societal pressure to “move on” or “be strong.”


But grief doesn’t follow a timeline, and it’s vital to give yourself permission to take care of your emotional, mental, and physical well-being. Self-care during this time isn’t about fixing your grief or moving on—it’s about sustaining yourself as you negotiate this painful journey.


Understanding What Self-Care Looks Like in Grief

Self-care can take many forms, and what works for one person may not work for another. What’s important is finding small, nurturing practices that help you cope with the emotional rollercoaster you may be riding. Here are some gentle suggestions for self-care:


  1. Give Yourself Permission to Feel

    The range of emotions after baby loss can be intense—sorrow, anger, numbness, confusion. Allow yourself to feel whatever comes up without judgment. Grief is not something to "fix," and it’s okay to not feel okay.


  2. Rest When You Need To

    Grief can take a physical toll, often leaving you exhausted. Listen to your body. If you feel fatigued, rest. If you feel overwhelmed, step away. It’s okay to pause and take breaks from activities, work, or even social gatherings.


  3. Set Boundaries

    During Baby Loss Awareness Week, you may feel more exposed to conversations and reminders of your loss, which can be painful. If this happens, it’s perfectly okay to set boundaries. You don’t have to attend every event or talk about your experience unless you want to. Accept your limits.


  4. Engage in Small Comforting Rituals

    Sometimes the smallest acts can be the most comforting. Lighting a candle, taking a warm bath, or spending time in nature can bring a moment of peace. These rituals don’t take away the pain, but they offer a moment to breathe.


  5. Seek Support When You Need It

    It’s easy to feel alone in your grief, but you are not. Whether it's talking to a trusted friend, joining a baby loss support group, or speaking to a therapist, reaching out for support is a crucial form of self-care. There is no shame in needing help, and many people find that sharing their story helps them process the overwhelming feelings of loss.


  6. Nourish Your Body

    Grief can sometimes make it difficult to take care of basic needs, like eating or drinking enough water. Even though it may feel like the last thing you want to do, try to nourish your body with simple, nutritious meals. If it’s too hard to cook, ask someone close to help.


  7. Find Ways to Remember

    For many parents, remembering their baby is an essential part of healing. This might mean writing a letter to your baby, planting a tree in their honour, or creating a memory box with keepsakes. Finding ways to connect to their memory can be an important aspect of self-care.


Supporting Your Mental Health

Grief can feel unrelenting at times, leading to waves of anxiety, depression, or trauma-related symptoms. If you feel that the grief is too much to handle alone, it’s important to reach out for professional help. Therapies such as EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) can help process traumatic memories and emotions related to loss.


There is no weakness in seeking support for your mental health. In fact, it is one of the bravest acts of self-care you can undertake.


Making Space for Your Own Grief

During Baby Loss Awareness Week, many people focus on the babies lost, and that’s incredibly important. But it’s also crucial to focus on yourself—the parent left to carry this unimaginable grief. Your pain, your loss, and your journey matter, too.


Remember, self-care isn’t about fixing the grief or making it disappear. It’s about creating moments where you can breathe, feel supported, and regain strength, even as you carry the weight of loss. Baby Loss Awareness Week is not just about remembering those we’ve lost, but also about caring for those who remain.

 

As you navigate this week and the days beyond, remember that self-care is not selfish. It’s a vital act of kindness toward yourself. Grief is hard, but you don’t have to walk this path alone. Together, with support, care, and compassion, you can find ways to heal while honouring your loss.



 

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